Reclaim your childhood
Feb23

Reclaim your childhood

The eternal quest for the Time Machine Since time immemorial man has looked at scientists for answers, and scientists have tried in vain, till now at least, to invent a Time Machine. Men have wanted it for various reasons. To go back into the past or to see what the future holds. Either out of pure academic curiousity or for personal reasons. One such personal reason has been in order to be a child again, free of the shackles of adulthood. Every one of us have wished at some point or the other, even at the cost of having to do homework all over again, that we could go back to those days which are unmatched in their goodness. What made them so good? Why do we wish we could be children again?   We get love without seeking it Did you know there is a popular theory that Mother Nature makes all its babies, be it in the animal or human world, snub-nosed, curvy, soft and adorable looking to ensure that the baby has the maximum chances of survival? This is because, according to the theory, those features release maternal hormones in other humans or animals which make the latter more often than not want to love and take care of the baby! Theory or not, even the most hardest of individuals cannot hide a smile when they see a baby gurgling and kicking about happily. And love happens automatically and instantly. Which is why babies and children are loved and pampered by all around them. Who, in their right senses, would not want to go back to that state of existence?   We do not have to put others before ourselves Come on, being selfish feels nice, doesn’t it? It is our conditioning as an adult that makes us feel guilty every time we put ourselves before others. As a baby or child that guilt simply does not exist. So you can reach for the biggest piece of cake without asking, the red carpet treatment is your birth right, and not getting your way all the time is simply taken care of through tantrums which work more often than not. The best part is, you get away with it all, and, as we said, no niggling feeling of guilt robs you of your baby sleep either. Who, in their right senses, would not want to go back to that state of existence?   In fact we do are not expected to do anything at all for others As children, if we as much as smile at the other person who happens to be around, that person feels...

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Be your own Valentine first
Feb02

Be your own Valentine first

Will you be your Valentine? Contrary to popular belief, Valentine’s Day is not just about romance and couples romantically inclined. It is about celebrating love, in the broadest sense of the term, with any one you love. Your mother could be your Valentine. Your sister could be your Valentine. And yes, you yourself could and should be your own Valentine first. Why is that?   Because love begins with you Like everything else in the world, all things have a beginning. The same goes with love. Love begins with one person. You. As an infant you love only yourself. Yes, you need your mother, you need your milk, and you need your sleep. You learn to love them later on, once you have realized what love is about after having loved yourself. There is nothing wrong with loving yourself. In fact there is everything right with it. Because, if you don’t have it within yourself for yourself first, how do you spread what you don’t have?   Because you need to accept yourself before you expect others to If you are not in love with yourself, with who you are, with the values you believe in, it shows. Just like an internal illness shows in an unseemly pimple on your skin. So until and unless you learn to love and accept yourself as you are, others will just see that insecurity within you and be justifiably unsure about you as a person. Whereas if you are totally comfortable with yourself, that too will show. And the people around you will accept you as you are and will love you for it.   Because you need to set your own standards of love before expecting the same from others Love means as many different things as there are people on this planet. Each has his or her own unique interpretation of it as well as his or her unique way of showing it. What you need to come to terms with is what your standards regarding love are. That realization can only come when you have a relationship with the person closest to you. You. Love yourself completely and only then will you realize what loves means to you and what you expect from it. Once that is clear in your own head, loving another or accepting love from another becomes easier with little room for confusion. Leading to longer lasting, or even eternal love.   Because if even you cannot love yourself, how will another love you? You do not love yourself? Delve deep why. What are these flaws in you that even you cannot get yourself to live...

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